Archive for the 'Personal Growth' Category
Tuesday, August 3rd, 2010
When I talk to friends and acquaintances about therapy, I often hear these comments. Do any of them sound familiar?
- “I can talk to my friends about my problems.”
- “Why would I talk to some stranger about my problems?!”
- “I’m not crazy.”
- “Therapy is cool for others, but not for me.”
- “The therapist is going to ‘psychoanalyze’ me.” (here, ‘psychoanalyze’ means to discover something I’m ashamed of)
- “The therapist is going to think I’m crazy.”
- “I am not in crisis.”
- “I don’t need therapy… It’s my husband/wife/boss/co-worker/fill-in-blank who needs to change!”
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Sunday, June 6th, 2010
As promised, here is an exercise taken from Maria Nemeth’s book, The Energy of Money. I invite you to explore this exercise in a calm and non-judgmental place, and give yourself some time just to free-associate. I’ve shortened it a bit, for space’s sake.
Your Structure of Knowing Money
On a poster-sized piece of paper, write the word “money” in the middle of the page. From there, start writing down your associations with this word. Do this by drawing lines moving outward from the word “money.” An association is any word or phrase that pops into your mind when you think of money. (This mind-mapping technique was developed by a writer named Gabriele Rico).
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Saturday, June 5th, 2010
If you live in this society, you have some relationship to money, so this month’s topic is the dreaded MONEY ISSUE!
Do you save? Do you spend? Do you binge spend? Do you have a hard time spending money on yourself? Do you have a hard time spending money on others? Do you always think there is never enough? Where do you spend your money? Is it in line with what you value? Do you follow your money meticulously? Or do you bury your head in the sand, hoping that your account isn’t withdrawn? Just thinking about these questions makes me feel like this guy in the photo!
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Tuesday, May 4th, 2010
I was debating what to cover this month, and what repeatedly kept getting my attention was the practice of journaling.
Journaling is a great tool in conjunction with psychotherapy. Why? Because there are a lot of thoughts floating around in your head. The practice of writing them down can be very freeing as well as clarifying.
Let me be clear – journaling is not a diary of the day’s events, although it can be. It is not scrapbooking either, although there can also be that component if that’s a medium you like. Journaling is bringing focus to specific issues, thoughts, and feelings that need some space and attention.
Filed: Personal Growth, Spirituality | Tagged: acceptance, balance, counseling, diaries, diary, free association, healing, insight, journal, journaling, Personal Growth, psychology, reflection, self-esteem, self-worth, witness observer, write, writing | No Comments »
Saturday, April 10th, 2010

I want to continue the discussion on faith from last month, since it seems to still be gripping me in some way. Faith is about knowing you’re not doomed by your past mistakes. I’d like to share a quote with you, “You are not punished FOR your mistakes, but BY your mistakes.”
Filed: Personal Growth, Spirituality | Tagged: acceptance, counseling, Faith, forgiveness, healing, holistic, Personal Growth, psychology, psychotherapy, self-help, Spirituality | No Comments »
Friday, January 15th, 2010
Happy New Year! I wish all of you a happy, healthy, and prosperous 2010. I know new years can be full of resolutions, goals, and new starts, but only a select few end up keeping their resolutions. Why is that?
Intellectually, we know what we want to change (our relationships, addictions, weight, etc.) but until we DO something different, all the insight in the world won’t help. Often our resolutions are unrealistic, or too myopic. Plus our feelings of worthiness – or lack thereof – often derail us.
Filed: Personal Growth, Spirituality | Tagged: Darren Hardy, goal, healing, holistic, intention, lose weight, new year, Personal Growth, resolution | 2 Comments »
Friday, January 1st, 2010

The psyche communicates on different stations, like a radio.
I often get the question from potential clients, “What is holistic psychotherapy, anyway?”
My New York aunt insists that in New York, the word ‘holistic’ would not get me very far – there’s this perception that the translation of ‘holistic’ equals California crunchy-oat-bread-with-sprouts-and-avocado-eating, Birkenstocks-wearing, lefty-communist protesters… Or some such comparison. Maybe they think we’re all driving around in ‘68 VW Bugs hugging trees and singing Kumbaya.
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Tuesday, November 10th, 2009

A symptom of sexual abuse is often isolation and depression.
This blog entry is about sexual abuse, especially in light of the recent Richmond High incident. There are many ways sexual abuse or molestation can manifest in both men and women. Here are some phrases to watch for that might be cause for deeper work:
- “I had sex when I was 4 with a female babysitter,” said by a male. If you’re male, and had “sex” before puberty especially by someone who was older or who had more authority, that isn’t sex – it’s abuse. As an adult, you may experience difficulty with intimacy and a tendency to sexualize your relationships.
Filed: Food and Weight Compulsions, Personal Growth, Sex and Pornography Compulsions, Spirituality | Tagged: childhood sexual abuse, gang rape, healing, healing rape, holistic, intimacy concerns, rape, rape counseling, rape hotline, rape survivor, rape victim, Richmond high, sexual assault, sexual compulsions, trauma response | 5 Comments »
Thursday, November 5th, 2009
Gang rape in Richmond, California brings up profound questions
Last weekend, a horrific incident happened outside of a school gymnasium. Around midnight on October 25, 2009, the Richmond police department got a call from a girl whose brother-in-law heard about the rape. The police followed-up and found a half-naked fifteen year old girl, beaten and unconscious, cowered underneath a bench outside her school. She was airlifted to the hospital in critical condition.
Filed: Personal Growth, Social and Civic Responsibility, Spirituality | Tagged: counseling, gang rape, healing rape, psychotherapy, rape, rape hotline, rape survivor, rape victim, Richmond, Richmond high, sexual assault | 1 Comment »
Friday, October 9th, 2009

Texas roadside attraction
Today’s topic is about expectations. Conflicting views arise – one belief is that we need expectations so that we and others are accountable. The other belief is a more Buddhist perspective about letting go of our expectations to alleviate suffering. What is the deal with expectations, anyway?
Highs and Lows
First, we must remember that having low expectations and having high expectations are still both forms of having expectations. Studies show that students whose teachers have low expectations of them perform at a lower level. Students whose teachers have high expectations of them perform at a higher level. In this regard, believing in peoples’ abilities and having high expectations of them allows them to see themselves in a positive light.
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